In a week which has seen Big Swinging Dick bankers show us their bonuses are based on little more than pissing in the wind, Ms R has been reflecting on market sentiment at a more personal level. Back in September she took a plunge on a man in what, for her, was a major way. She put her heart on the table only to see him indulge in some serious short selling. She thought she'd read him the right way but she hadn't. Imperfect information is always a problem but in this case we're talking market abuse for a gain that was purely egotistical.
Afterwards Ms R wasn't sure how strong her underlying fundamentals were so she did something she'd never done: she took her stock off the market and decided that there would be absolutely no speculation on her part for at least three months. There is something called the 'dead cat bounce' in the stockmarket: it refers to a point at which the market has been in freefall but will suddenly and inexplicably bounce back for a brief hurrah. That explains the guy from the lapdancing club. In general though, Ms R just did not feel like she could be a player again, largely because she thought she'd lost her judgement, something that has not happened to her on this level ever.
We all have needs of course and Ms R's need for passion is an overriding one; it can dominate her life at times, not just her sexual life but her professional life as well. She adores sex - not everyday sex in metronomic fashion but the kind of mad, filthy, sensual, intense lovemaking that you lose yourself in. And she needs it. But only with the right person. That person happens to be attached. Ok not ideal. But he's utterly indulgent, incredibly smart and brings out the best - and delicious worst- in Ms R. Sure she likes him: how else would the sex be so good? You can't write emotion out of the equation: only a disingenuous fool would do that. All you can do is exercise caution as you would in any investment. And be honest.
Ms R knows the deal right now and while it works for her she'll let it happen. There is always a trade off, no matter where you invest - long or short term. Everything we do involves some degree of speculation and right now, this seems as good a place as any to re enter the market. Ultimately you can never know the future but you make sure you enjoy the moments you have.
Friday, 21 March 2008
Ms R is back on the market
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Though short-selling is not a good long term arrangement.
Greavsie: Last year's episode threw me mostly because after being so warm one day, three days later he blanked me. And that is what hurt. The rest I can deal with. As for now, well he spoils me and that works at present. I have those who love me and hug me - but I need the sexual intensity. Funny though it's my friends who recognised that before I did. I think maybe there will never be only one man in my life.
That was no dead cat bounce Ms R! Living in the present and living every moment to the full seems to be something you are rather good at. Let's drink to as many men as a girl needs and the new day brings...
Rosie, if you're ever over we'll have that drink together. You're right I do love the moment and it's irresistible to me - one thing I know for sure is that when I'm an old cantankerous woman I will look back and think, "Boy, did I live. And love."
Somehow I just can't see you a cantankerous old woman. You're too vibrant, alive, feisty, sexy and amazing a woman now. Don't ever change, though I doubt you ever could. And as you say enjoy the moments now to the fullest.I learned that one single joyous fact the hard way a long long time ago when I lost someone incredibly near and dear to me. So you keep on fighting. And don't ever stop.
Beau in gads!
a sunny Seattle?
Mrs. R.
Good for you for getting back in the game after some bad investments. While there's always some amount of speculation in any venture, I believe that taking a Graham Dodd approach is the way to go. After all, it works for Warren Buffet.
Don't go for a hot stock, look for an undervalued investment with a high dividend yield, where the underlying assets are solid, and the rest of the world hasn't caught onto yet. Then invest a little love and care into the asset and and watch its market value rise.
Like Buffet, go for the long term, not the quick play.
Hello Sunny Seattle: you know my natural instinct is to go with the flow always - which if you think about it is the antithesis of how women tend to see their lives traditionally. Thing is, I've been like this since I was a teenager in every respect and, good or bad, it feels like me. Thank you for the compliments:)
BelleDeVille: I can't say I've had too many bad investments but what upset me after last year's man (you can read about him in old posts in Sept/Oct) was that I thought I read his character but I got it wrong. Of course a longer term investment would be worth having and I totally agree with your investment philosophy but I think the main thing is to get back in the market..as they say you have to speculate to accumulate. I do feel back to my confident self again at least.
I'm just a simple bloke but even I can see that the current squeeze isn't an investment of any sort.
It's the ages old barter arrangement, he gets the pleasure of giving MsR pleasure, and MsR gets the pleasure. (and the occasional dinner I'd hope)
Mrs. R., ignore everything I wrote because honestly I'm out of the game. I'm a t'wee bit older than you and after one long term marriage and multiple engagements I'm alone on a friday nigt blogging.
How pathetic is that.
On the other hand, my mother (who is still gorgeous) when she was 50 she married a great guy who was 13 years younger than she was...in fact her husband was younger than my husband! this last summer they renewed their 20 year vows and I'm single and living alone with a black dog (doberman pincher)!
So you go girl for all of us that have just had enough of the game that we are willing to sit out the hand!
The risk is part of the thrill anyway.
He sounds fabulous - filthy delicious *shiver*
Freddy: It is a little more than that he does have a most excellent mind that appeals to the bookish Ms R. If it were just a case of sex for dinner, then there would be hundreds of candidates in the frame: Ms R happens to like him and that is what makes it so electrifying in part. Conversation topics are wide ranging and challenging and therefore it makes the sex even better. He has the qualities Ms R likes in any man. And yes he is thoughtful out of bed too- and that is a change from last year's number.
Belle De Ville: How can I ignore you? I was alone on Friday blogging but I don't see that as an issue really. I enjoy men and moreover I need male company even if it's just platonic. I'm not into one night stands these days - and I have to like the man involved. Is that a relationship? Yes maybe it is but then we all make our own reality.
Bittersweet: He's very good fun, someone who is already what I'd call a friend in many ways and yes, utterly filthy and getting more so. Ask me after Monday
Living in the moment isn't the worst thing someone can do. Tread carefully, friend.
Another excellent post but you say he's attached. What happened to sisterhood?
AB: Yes, I'd like to think we don't have to go through all those discussions we did last time. x
Anon: The sisterhood is a curious concept that assumes that gender is a kind of glue. Even before I was aware of it, it never worked for me: I've had dreadful times at school and later at work as a result of women being spiteful, jealous etc. I see very few instances of the 'sisterhood' working for women but I see a lot of women - close girlfriends who show immense jealousy towards their friends.
If I do have a sisterhood it is my love for my girlfriends and my immense loyalty. Nonetheless if I think they are being unreasonable with their partners I will tell them. It is not blind female loyalty but hopefully something more rational.
That has nothing to do with my seeing an attached man:that is just life. No, I didn't set out to find him: I'm not predatory and in fact it's the men that make the running. I do not know the woman in question nor do I need to; that side of his life is something he must sort out and I suppose if he wants to take a lover, then he has his reasons. My morality is of course my own - It took until I was almost forty for me to ever consider an attached man but it happened.
You may not think this is ethical and I appreciate that but the fact is life is not always black and white. Incidentally it was my mother, who was brought up in a Lebanese village, who told me this when I was agonising over attached men. The fact is that at my point in life, my relationships are fluid and pragmatic. If a woman wants to get married and have children then she should steer clear.
I'm afraid on the 'attached' issue, this is where you and I differ, Ms. R. I've been there, done that, and got so many t-shirts that I had to set up a stall in Covent Garden and, even then, most of them ended up at in the 50% off rack. Unless the wife (or partner or whatever you want to call her) knows about my relationship with her partner, I just don't go there.
Sure, it's the guy's problem at the end of the day if the wife finds out and freaks but ultimately I don't want to be part of the fall-out.
Making hay while the sun shines is fine but in my experience the sun doesn't shine for very long. The only thing to do is to stay fully in the present, with no expectations of any future and enjoy the great sex while you're having it!
mrs robinson, it's been a long time since I'd last associated sex with stocks and shares, in fact not since that incident with the hedge fund manager and the rolled up financial times, but that was in another country...but ethical head scratching and female solidarity aside we're only here once and we just don't have that kind of thing that you have with this chap with every one we meet so...well, there was a point to this comment but if it seems to have been lost I hope all goes well for you.
love Rilly
A well argued answer Ms. R, and I take your point. Infidelities just one of my hot buttons but it's largely his problem not yours.
Suze: You and I have agreed happily to disagree on this one but I am as always interested in your point of view.
Rilly: Hi Rilly, don't think I haven't scratched my head - obviously if that happens I'll have to instigate a survival strategy. But it takes a lot for me to cut loose and I can only trust my instincts and fate on this one.I've given away a lot more of myself to far less worthy men. I've just spent the most wonderful, sensual, mad, fun day with him and it was one of the best days - doing anything - I've had in a while.Thanks for visiting too:)
Anon: Thank you. I understand your views. I would never knowingly jeopardise him - by sending texts etc so for my part I keep myself to myself. But then I would never go around talking about someone even if they were single - beyond my close friends. That's just me. It keeps it precious.
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